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Tape it Back Together by yuumei Tape it Back Together by yuumei
My family has a complicated history of separation, immigration, divorce, and remarriage. I won't go into the details but my mom often said to me "It's my life, my choice, I do what I want. You have no right to judge me."

I'm 18, but as a 9 year old child at the time, I couldn't repeat what she said. I could only wonder "Your choice in life affects me too."

Divorce is such a fad these days. Half the people I know have divorced parents, and most of them aren't happy about it. I understand in some situations divorce is the only way, but when your choice affects more than just you, think of the consequences and choose wisely.

With that said, I also wrote a short visual novel about the subject and an interactive narrative .
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cool103 Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2016  Student Artist
i feel sad now Pearl Emote 10 You Broke Chica's Heart (Chat Icon) Deku Link SAD. 
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GreyJay254 Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2016  Student Digital Artist
This is such a well done gorgeous piece, with such a deep meaning
and yes i'm crying too
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SGPotter Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2016
My fuckin couch is soaked with tears.
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WinterSong12 Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
wow...
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boopmaster112 Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Hobbyist Writer
Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz I'M CRYING AND I CAN'T FUCKING STOP 
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LoverFanfic Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2016  Hobbyist Writer
*cries a motherfuckin river*
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neko-catty Featured By Owner Edited Aug 1, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
right in the feels... Jake crying plz 
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jamestheweesel Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2016  Student Digital Artist
do not make the same mistakes and learn for the past. this is all we can ever do. Unbowed, Unbent, Unbroken
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ADDICTEDTOSANDWICHES Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2016  New Deviant
Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz 
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taurequine Featured By Owner Edited Jul 15, 2016  Student Digital Artist
I was pretty happy when my parents divorced honestly because things were a lot more stable but it definitely is something that affects you years down the line. To this day I hate conflict and can be pretty insecure about facing people in that way. Most of my other issues have been sorted out by this point now that I'm an adult but that is one that sticks with me.

Of course it was also very awkward not having a mom growing up since everyone else just seems to but that is just one of those things that you get used to after a while. I love my dad and am grateful for that, and honestly their marriage was far more traumatizing than their separation could have ever been, so I'm glad it happened and I've come to terms with it.

It's been 10 years now and my dad just remarried recently, and I'm very happy for him. I'm glad we've all finally moved on in that sense. She's a nice woman. I just don't know if I could ever marry because most of my family members are divorced and I don't have any firsthand experience in what that looks like.

But yeah, great pic. Very emotive. I always used to wonder why I couldn't have just had a normal family like other people did, so this really captures that.
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paleskytheomega1 Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2016  New Deviant Hobbyist Writer
So good to see after a huge ocean of Blank X Reader. Why is there so much of it?
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Bloodybookraven Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
To those who are commenting full of pikachu crying emotes: THAT CAN BE TAKEN AS VERY DISRESPECTFUL.
To artist: I'm very sorry
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Sarge5th Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
I am a dude and I can relate. Down to the last word. thank you for sharing.
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IronClawtheNF Featured By Owner Edited Jul 11, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
My parents are in separation. From where I live they can divorce when they've been separated for a year, so my dad and mom are waiting it out. My dad doesn't really support me drawing, so I just ignore him. This is a very beautiful piece. 
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AlphaWolfette Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
i almost criedPikachu Crying Plz Pikachu Crying Plz Miuna Crying Icon Chisaki Crying Icon Pikachu Crying Plz 
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GamingWithRose123 Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
DA FEELS!!!Frozen - Elsa Crying Icon Crying Mako Pikachu Crying Plz Miuna Crying Icon Chisaki Crying Icon 
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Presumptuous-Cat Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
this hit my feels
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Jengineerr Featured By Owner Jun 18, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Sad but the style is amazing :)
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KatsumiTori Featured By Owner Jun 15, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
;__; I love your art and I agree. My parents are also divorced and it has affected me so much to the point where I once cried from someone mentioning their father. But, as we grow up, we grow and in the end, it creates who we are. 
Stay strong! <3
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huntermarch Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2016  Student Writer
😿
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HokkaidoCake Featured By Owner May 26, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
I am lucky enough to be born into a happy, loving family, but I still remember the time in Standard 2 when my best friend skipped school for a week because she was crying over her parents' divorce.
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LaughButts Featured By Owner May 18, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Till this day, this picture still makes me tear. 
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Astrokiwi Featured By Owner May 11, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
:hug:
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AcrylicVanner Featured By Owner May 5, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow. My parents are planning a divorce now, I honestly don't care though. I almost hate my dad, he has a sever drinking problem and calls me a worthless piece of shit behind my back, I know that because he said it to one of my brothers who then told me that he has said it many times before. I'm not really wondering what I could have done as much as wondering why I couldn't have had a better father.
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practical-lolita Featured By Owner May 16, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Sorry about that. I'm sure you're a lot better than that.
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SilverMuttt Featured By Owner May 10, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm sorry, I'll pray for you. 
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AcrylicVanner Featured By Owner May 11, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
ThanksHug 
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Kitti606 Featured By Owner May 7, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow, that's awful. Nobody should have to go through that.
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AcrylicVanner Featured By Owner May 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
It's fine, I've gotten used to all the crap.
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Kitti606 Featured By Owner May 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
In itself, that's pretty sad, too. It's not something someone should be forced to "get used to."

But I've been there, too, in a way, so I totally get how you feel. Never had drinkers in the family, but let's just say I've had to cut ties with at least one member over some severe disrespect issues, and issues like that will radiate out and affect other members negatively if you let them continue.

As much as they've hurt you (and believe me, I know this part is difficult), you have to remember that people who act like this typically do it because they are hurt also, and they are mis-managing their pain and their problems. The ideal situation is that the agitator in question (and possibly other family members as well) gets some form of help and that the healing process can begin. Sadly though, it's not always going to happen that way.

That's not to say that that last part is your responsibility, of course. I simply suggest being open for forgiveness, but otherwise the best thing you can do for yourself is to learn from the experience to ensure you don't repeat any of the same mistakes or misjudgements observed in others. I've made a few promises to myself after my parents' divorce during my childhood, and after five years of marriage, I can say that I've kept my eyes on my own behavior as well as my husband's, and we've hit some rocky spots, but each time we have made sure to proactively seek out solutions that benefit both of us. I believe that has made the most difference in our own marriage.
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AcrylicVanner Featured By Owner May 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I'm trying to forgive him for the stuff that he has caused. He's kind of a good guy when he is sober, but when he's drunk (which is a lot of the time) he's definitely not a pleasant person to be around. I hadn't seen him in a couple months until today and it seems like he is trying to stop the drinking, but I can't be sure because last time my mom made my dad move out for a long time he stopped drinking for a while but then started back up again a little while after he was allowed to come back.

Also, I've promised myself that I will never drink alcohol and I try to be a really nice person to everyone. My friends tell me that I am one of the nicest people they have met so I think I am doing good so far.
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Kitti606 Featured By Owner May 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, that's good to hear. I'll be praying for your father. Hopefully he can overcome his addiction and straighten out his life. And I'll be praying for you, as well. <3
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AcrylicVanner Featured By Owner May 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank youHug 
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Kitti606 Featured By Owner May 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
No problem. ^^
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KawaiiTsuyu Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2016
Such a wonderful painting and yet so sad and full of feelings... 2015 NaNoEmo - #22 Happy Cry 
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xPastelPrincess Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2016
This is the best thing I've seen today
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xPastelPrincess Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2016
I someday want to marry and never divorce.
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tim224 Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2016
the feels
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DragonStorm16 Featured By Owner Apr 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Honestly, I'm not all that upset that my own parents split up... They weren't really happy together during the fifteen years they'd been married. The only reason they even stayed together in the first place was because they had to raise me, a child who was born out of an accident. And now, since my youngest sister is four, Mom has to deal with fourteen more years of bitching from my dad because he still tries to control her life, even though he lives a thousand miles away now.

I feel rather sorry for the woman and two boys he lives with now, because when he was here all he would really do was play video games and yell at us when he wasn't at work.
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SqueezyBear Featured By Owner May 5, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I have the same problem with my stepdad
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DragonStorm16 Featured By Owner Apr 10, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
And I just remembered that one night when I was around ten. Mom and Dad had a fight right outside my door. I was used to arguments, but the yelling that night was so bad that I was seriously afraid they would divorce. Even though Mom came in my room to comfort me and say it would never happen, I should have known by then that it wasn't true. But I was so used to hearing arguments in their room or somewhere else in the house that I actually believed that was how a normal family worked. That the dad just sat in his room and gamed when not at work and never paid attention to his kids unless I had done something bad (I was a problem child, so it was pretty common to get yelled at and smacked). I never even knew that most of my mom's friend and my mom's brother hated Dad and tried to convince her to leave him. But she still believed everything as fine. She thought that kind of marriage was normal too.

It's good he's not living with us anymore. He yelled too much, and just didn't understand why I was so scared around him. Or why my two little sisters were scared to be within five feet of him after hearing him scream at my mom because all the towels were dirty and there were none left in the bathroom.
He screamed because of a fucking TOWEL.
This was a little while before the divorce, and the fights got more frequent as it loomed nearer. He would scream and curse when my sisters were in the other room, he repeatedly smacked my mom's computer to the point where the thing was smoking.

Tl;dr: My dad has anger issues.

I know he loves me and my sisters. At least, I think he does. But after all the crap we had to put up with, I'm happy he's down in Oregon and that I'm able to make choices on whether I'll visit him or not. Mom has a new boyfriend, and he's basically everything that our family needs. He's actually responsible, he KNOWS how to be a dad. he doesn't scream like a titan at the drop of a hat, and he doesn't throw a huge hissy fit because Mom was cleaning the window with the last clean towel.
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BurningHarmony Featured By Owner Apr 9, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Imma cry now..
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hammajainen Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2016
I'm glad my parents split up. They weren't happy together. I think an unhappy marriage is far more poisonous for a child than a divorce. 
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SAD-FTV Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2016
There are carnivals of happiness everywhere

Without them, we are very lonely

There's restless in the heart and soul

About to come in the house
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RealmSprinter Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Argh, to me, personally, this is very really relatable. My dad told me that his choice was between him and my mom, but his choice effected everyone else in the family too. I always thought it was so selfish of him to say that, so ignorant and stupid. It happened in 2012 but it had such a gigantic ripple effect on me and my childhood, I could say that it was almost torn in half/apart. My childhood wasn't really a happy one after that, became more distant from everyone else, always envied everyone else who still had a dad but I've learned to be happy for them too. Because the experience I went through, it was hell
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PoisonousSilverQueen Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Le cri ;-;
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Bleucerise Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2016  Student General Artist
It's so sad, but beautiful.
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Turulion Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
just wonderful!
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FengXu Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2016
I was just randomly searching Deviantart when I saw this. Even now I'm wondering why, out of all the other works of art, did this one make me so emotional...
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FreddyPines Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2016
Same here
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