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Tape it Back Together by yuumei Tape it Back Together by yuumei
My family has a complicated history of separation, immigration, divorce, and remarriage. I won't go into the details but my mom often said to me "It's my life, my choice, I do what I want. You have no right to judge me."

I'm 18, but as a 9 year old child at the time, I couldn't repeat what she said. I could only wonder "Your choice in life affects me too."

Divorce is such a fad these days. Half the people I know have divorced parents, and most of them aren't happy about it. I understand in some situations divorce is the only way, but when your choice affects more than just you, think of the consequences and choose wisely.

With that said, I also wrote a short visual novel about the subject and an interactive narrative .
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Kiritti-chanS2 Featured By Owner 4 days ago
I'm not a child anymore, I'm 18 and at the beggining of this year my father told me that he was feeling like he couldn't be with my mother no more and was thinking of divorcing her. Even though I acted, as he expected of me, mature, my world was tumbling down, because until that moment I had never thought my happy family was ever going to break. Yesterday, after I arrived late, my father told me he was decided and that he expected me to be a support for my brother, who is still a child.
That night all I remembered this picture and the 1000 Words flash, both I had thought sad, but I had never thought I would relate.
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Akiko-Takahashi Featured By Owner 5 days ago  New member Hobbyist Digital Artist
She looks exactly like me after I finally understood what 'divorce' meant.
Really Sad 
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Tahmina222 Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2015  New member
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Budderisveryspecial Featured By Owner Mar 11, 2015
I know how you felt and still feel those same feelings today.
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nennn Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2015  New member
What a beautiful picture!!I want to get it!!! You're a greatest artist I've seen.
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Kate246 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Incredible message and great piece.
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DarkLover33 Featured By Owner Mar 3, 2015   Writer
This made me cry...wow im really speechless...
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HiroMegan Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2015  New member
O god.
I have a happy family and I propably can't imagine the pain you must feel about it, but after seeing this art I'm crying. It's beautiful. 
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shadowstrike-33 Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2015  Student General Artist
My parents are only staying together because of me. ..I want to thank them for that.
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TheWilyWildcat Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2015  Student General Artist
Very sad, and very beautiful.  I don't know for sure, but from some of the people I've met sometimes it seems like lots of people just treat relationships in general as a bit of a fad; they fall in love, they get married, they have a kid, and then they split up, but all the time they were doing that they never really considered just how much of a commitment each of those actions were, like all along they were just living their life in the default setting and never really thinking about just how happy it would make them and others in the future; and then they wonder why their child is sad. Whether you divorce in the end or not, people should at least just be aware of how much a relationship can change lives.
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musicisthenewspeech Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2015   Traditional Artist
This is bringing tears to my eyes... Because it reminds me... Of me
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Victorianorman Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2015
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metamorphstorm Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
I won't go into the details but my mom often said to me "It's my life, my choice, I do what I want. You have no right to judge me."

That's exactly what I'm going through...
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Catbandz Featured By Owner Edited Feb 1, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I see your point yuumei, that having a broken family can, from personal experience , really affect a child, and should never be done unless it's the only way. But sometimes, divorce IS the only way. I can see , yet again, MORE personal experience, growing up in a household where either both parents fought, or one was just horrible and mean, could be far worse than a broken household. Neither option should happen, but given some circumstances, a divorce is sometimes the best solution, but never a perfect one. I do think people should put more thought into marriage, and especially into having children. You need to make sure you will be able to handle both a marriage, and children. Any problems like drinking or drugs need to fixed before starting a life and family together.  It's really just a crummy situation, all in all.
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QueenSheWolf Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2015  Student
:O
Amazing.
Sad.
Emotional.
Beautiful.
But amazing.
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SmithSonite-Storm Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2015  New member Hobbyist General Artist
AcidKraken, I'm sorry you had to go through that, but on the other hand, marriage is supposed to last until one of the two dies. I know it must be painful (my cousin's parents had an annulment and it was hard for her) to see your parents that way and I'm truly sorry for that. But divorce cannot separate a marriage, an annulment (under certain circumstances) can be done, but divorce will never truly cut the bonds tied in marriage. I'm not trying to hurt you, or make you angry, I'm just saying my belief on the matter. I hope your parents become happy over time, and I'm sorry if you don't agree with me and are hurt by what I wrote. I hope you have a wonderful future and a happy marriage. - A, trying to be helpful, friend who cares (:
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Little-shy-joker Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2015
Luckily my mom still care about me and big bro, she said she was to divorce because history but she done that when I was 13-14 now I'm 15.
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PrinceoftheAngels Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2015
oh god...
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AcidKraken Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2015  Student General Artist
I agree that having parents be present and together is good for a child. I also DEFINITELY believe that working on a relationship to the utmost degree before deciding to end it is really important. When two people are capable of examining themselves and their marriage, then trying to fix things is always the first step.

But having two parents who fight and set an incredibly poor example for a relationship dynamic can be more harmful to a child than demonstrating to that same child that when things are bad, mature people are able to acknowledge their unhealthy dynamic and make a change in their life for the better. I know plenty of people who were sad about their parents divorces when they were kids, because they didn't know how to understand what had happened. But as young adults, came to understand that it was for the best.

Coming from a family where my parents are both deeply unhappy and unsatisfied with each other, do not acknowledge each other as a couple, live in bitter acceptance and misery, and have been that way for a long time... I can say I DO wish they had gotten a divorce rather than stayed together. Every one of my siblings, including me, has experienced a time where they had to un-learn the unhealthy example set by my parents and we have all suffered through incredibly abusive and painful relationships because of that. I do not single-handedly place the blame on my parents relationship for this, of course, but now that I've moved past that point in my life, it makes me incredibly sad to see them stuck in the same unhappy marriage than to break it off and turn over a new leaf.
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VanDuxy Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2015  New member Student General Artist
Sad but Beautiful 
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Doodle-of-the-day Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2015  New member
heartbreaking
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Hetalia-Lover562 Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2015  New member Hobbyist General Artist
your art is quite exquisite. I love it Love 
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snowpuff77 Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2015
I can't blame you. Your mom's quote "It's my life, my choice, I do what I want. You have no right to judge me" sounds like a very selfish base for divorce, no offense! I resent the idea that parents would shamelessly get a divorce one day, almost never thinking about how their young kid might feel about. In a way, they divorced not just their spouse, but their kid and in-law family too. Without a doubt, "when your choice affects more than just you, think of the consequences and choose wisely." I'm so sick of the statistics, 2 people marry, then immaturely and selfishly take it for granted, and divorce merely because they can. But those are just my personal thoughts about it...
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Midnight-Splash Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2014  Student General Artist
I wanna cry right now, because that's exactly how I feel...
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IchigoNyannn Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2014  Student General Artist
I haven't experienced a divorce yet, but I have experienced a near divorce... right on the edge. No. A bit over the edge. My parents were serious about divorcing, they even cause my brother and I to cry over it... And a do not cry often. At least, not in front of people. On that day that they made us cry, I tried desperately to fix it. Very desperately. I didn't want them to divorce, and my dad loves me so I think- no, I'm sure I broke him when I said I would stay with my mom, out of anger for something he said, but I think that if I hadn't said that... They would have divorced. My dad decided to stay, and not divorce. Laughs came back. Times together came back. Life is nice, though I was in depression for a while after what had occurred(and guess what? FAILED SO MANY TESTS TT-TT). They still quarrel a great deal but, there's no more talk about divorce and killing each other so.... Haha. And I'll just keep on drawing, and perhaps someday I can make them really proud.
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giantstorylover Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2014
My parents are divorced too. But I was 15 or 16. 
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somedudefromEARTH Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I am so grateful for the family I have, but my heart goes out to those who've gone through this experience...

Wonderful, touching picture.
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enderflowerrussia Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
My parents divorced  when i was 8.I guess people would say i had a hard life.I lived in Canada till i was 5 with only one sibling , a little brother whom  was 3 .My dad got a job in the U.S.A so we packed up and moved.After 3 years of my life there my parents divorced  in the middle of my third year at my elementary school.After that back to Canada .There i lived in my grandfather house , with my mom and 5 year old brother.I thought i had friends but they were not as truthful or kind as they seemed.Like i said some people though my life was bad but  its not .I After only a year we moved back to america.My mom had started to date some one and moved back .The year prior she would take trips to america to visit him.He was the father of one of the first little boy/friend i had meet in america.And a year after that very thing was different.I had 2 step brothers as well as a 6 year old biological brother and a step father.You may blame yourself for the divorce, but its never your fault. My parents were always fighting and i barley saw my father.And after a while he never called, or sent birthday or Christmas present even forgetting to send them to my little brother his only son.But i know my life is not the worst.There is plenty of people out there who have a worse situations  than i did .But know this.No matter what situation , no matter what problem there is always an answer.Answer me this . Does night turn into day ? yes.Does rain ever stop ? yes.Does a wick ever start to burn with the help of a lighter or a match ? yes.So no matter what never forget that life , YOUR LIFE will ALWAYS have light at the end of a tunnel there is always a light.The "tape" or " glue " will come some day.
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KokoroSabishii Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2014
Aaaannd my heart is broken.
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EmeraldDawn-16 Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
My parents devorced when I was around two years old. Despite not remembering it, it did affect me, though a little indirectly. I didn't have a mother until I was about 5, when my dad remarried. My birth mother never seemed to remember me, though my dad did his best to create the illusion that she loved me as dearly as my dad did, even going so far as to get presents, mail them with her address, and time it so that the 'presents' that were from my 'mother' arrived on my birthday. Yet she never called, never wrote...... And when I did go to her house, there were tons of presents, yet I rarely saw her during those visits.  Later on, I learned that my dad covered for her absense many times, and saw firsthand what she desired from me when I was older.

Even though my parents were devorced, I always wondered if it had been mine and my little sister's fault. My mother..... Was a partier, so being weighed down by two babies wasn't her style. While it hurt, it wasn't so bad when I grew older, learned my dad's side of the story, and saw my mother's personality from my own experiences. I knew that the devorce had been a good thing in my life, allowing a mother who was responsible to enter my life and fill the void that the  lack of a mother had caused.....
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xelanesque Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2014
I believe if you want a divorce then you should get one and do not let your kids get in the way of your life.
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namae-no-nai-uta Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
But at the same time, things like that negatively affect the child, and that's a horrible thing to do to a little kid who doesn't understand. Speaking from experience twice over, the child thinks it is their fault. "Mommy, does Daddy not love me anymore? Is that why he's gone?" Or vice-versa, in the case where the dad gets custody. It's not fair to the child, and no amount of reassurance will ever make it better. Sure, as the kid gets older and understands the world better, they learn that that really wasn't the case, but it's something that remains with them for the rest of their lives as a painful memory. The years of doubt over whether they were loved or not. The years where they should have had both parents to raise them together. Once you have a kid, you need to think of the well-being of that child as well as your own health. Having a child is not something to treat lightly, and your actions as a parent affect your child.

If the relationship between you and your partner is toxic, then yeah, by all means, get a divorce. But if it's just a conflict of interest, you should try and make it work as best as possible for the sake of your child. There are other ways to deal with a rocky marriage than divorce, and those methods should be employed first if you have a child.
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Graveyard-Rose Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
You can try not to make the same mistakes, and you can be sad about it, it's normal that the divorce of your parents affected you, and maybe it wasn't well treated when you were a kid.

But you have to try and understand your parents. With nine years the world seems a happy place, and your parents perfect people but if you grew up a little more in that enviroment of two people that don't love each other anymore but stay together just because of the kids, you would notice, you would see two not only not perfect people, but sad and frustrated. And that would hurt you too, and consume you, and probably give you a wrong impression of how relationships work.

Maybe your mother should not tell you about your right to judge, but that's a defense tactic... She was not happy about it either but perhaps it was the best choice, even to you; and you have to see that, and that they deserve to be happy too.
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Trafal-the-Law Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2014   Traditional Artist
families are over-rated and so are parents.
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WrathOfAnAsura Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
If you could go back and change it you might not have the same knowledge of separation you have today and possibly make the same mistake in the future.
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gidigum Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
My parents divorced when I was 9. The divorce itself didn't affect me at all. To be honest, I didn't really see my parents that much as a child because they were working all the time, so i guess it didn't work out for them later on. I actually got a lot closer to my parents thanks to their breakup, because now non of them had to work that much, and they had more time to spend time with us (me and my two older siblings).
Today i'm only close to my mother. Yes, she made some really bad mistakes after the divorce.. But unlike my dad, she never left us. She was always there for us.
My dad got married to a jealous bitch. She was in our lives for 6 years. For some reason she had decided to hate me and my brother, but love my bigsister. She was really mean, always yelling at me and my bigbro and bullying us. She never let dad defend us or even spend time with us without her, and later he was not allowed to be with anyone than her and her family..  then she made up lies about me and my brother, especially about me, and my dad believed her! She told my dad that i was mean her, telling everyone lies about dad, failed school and stolen money from dad .. Soon my siblings left me out as well after this, and I was afraid to go home because of everyone hating me for no reason. So i ran away from home and lived for about a year here and there, mostly at my friends house.
After 6 years of marrige, dad had lost me and my siblings, and this bitch wife of his had plans to sell our home and move somewhere else with him and leave us, but he refused to leave his kids, and then she finally divorced him. Later he found out that she was the one who had stolen money from him.. He then won us back, but not me entirely.. I love my father, but it's so hard to talk to him after these tough years. So much happened, i can't fit it all in this post.
I just felt like sharing my story with you guys. I'm now 19, i've moved out from home and life is pretty good right now. I'm still pretty badly scared from my dads ex wife, but i can live with it. It's in the past.

It's important for all the divorced parents out there to always think about what's the best for their kids. The divorce may not be that bad, but the new people coming to your childs life makes it tough.
Sorry for this superlong post. I just felt like sharing my story with  you guys. Hugs and a lot of love from me to everyone. <3
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II-edison-II Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Awww so sad :(
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alielana Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
i just started crying <3 <3 Heart 3D Llama Emoji-07 (Hopeless or Scared) [V1] Llama Emoji-06 (Depress) [V1] Llama Emoji-65 (Blood Tears...) [V3] Llama Emoji 28 (Delicious) [V2] Llama Llama 
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River-fox Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
When this picture first got uploaded to DeviantART a few years ago, I couldn't relate to it. Like, I mean, looking at it made me sad inside but that's it.
Last year my parents split up, I got dragged from one parent to the other I had to move out and move in at least 3 times because no one wanted me, no one knew what to do with me. My dad abandoned me because of his new girlfriend and he was the most important person in my life. I know there are many stories like this but each is different. I'm 17 years old and already lost grip of my life.

Now this wonderful artwork makes me tear up every time I take a closer look at it, every time I read it. It's breathtaking and at the same time painfully true.
I wonder if a parent would be able to understand the pain we are feeling. Because not once I saw that a parent was sorry for what they did.
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C3rb3ruz Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014
I can still relate even if I have a decent family.
Perhaps, someday I would adopt every abandoned child and becoming their parents.. and teach them everything they deserve and they have to know.
Those ignorant parents would pay the price... in the right time.
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River-fox Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
That is a really nice and kind thought, honestly, there are too many suffering.
Hopefully. Karma or something.
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C3rb3ruz Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014
I wouldn't be working alone, of course.
A "night" wouldn't stay a "night" forever, it will become a "Day". Somehow.
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1smilechangesall Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014
Your work doesn't ceases to amaze me.
I'm in tears again.
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PopPixie659 Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2014
our parents aren't divorced. in fact, they give us our needs. most of our needs. although they gave us enough food, clothing, shelter, education or even stuff we want, they failed to give us enough time. their reasons are always " I'm tired." or "I'm busy." I'm 15 and I understand that but I'm scared because time is running and none of us is getting any younger. I fear that the day would come when it's too late to regret that we failed to spend enough time bonding together even though we were just living with one another. maybe my parents will never realize it until it's too late so i vowed that i will never make the same parenting mistake in the future. hope you'll have a nice life :)
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AppleBlasts Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2014
The feels.

This is very moving and nearly brought me to tears. It hits a bit close to home because I myself came from a dysfunctional home. My parents divorced when I was 2 but I still feels the effects even today, I just turned twenty-seven last month. My parents could never get along for my sake and that of my two older brothers, I am distant from my dad even though he raised us, and my mother...well, she didn't seem interested in raising children and really didn't seem to want to be in my life until I was old enough to take care of myself. For that, I have practically a non-existent relationship with her. And for the longest time, I thought that my life was perfectly normal...up until I made friends and saw their parents in successful relationships. I quickly learned that my family was not the way a family was supposed to function. But, there was pretty much nothing I could do about it. Well, except learn from it. I vowed that if I ever have children, that I would do better. 
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Unoraptormon Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2014   Traditional Artist
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hirukiko Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2014
so great and great, I love the feeling it reflects..
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Randamu-Chan Featured By Owner Oct 15, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
My dad went to prison and he'll stay there until he dies... and my mom got married to an other man because she can't take the pain anymore of my father being incarcerated... and i now i will be more careful when i get older :' (
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livelonghansora Featured By Owner Oct 13, 2014  Student General Artist
My parents divorced when I was 3 so i don't remember it at all. But they always remained in a state of "cold war 2". I started realize that my family isn't "normal" only in elementary school, and when I was twelve I didn't get along with them at all. So I understand what kids are going through after their parents divorce. I first saw this post and your visual novel when I was also twelve, and I cried. 
We have to do a presentation on a short story that affect us personally for school and I choose to present 1000 words, because when reading the comments that followed the story I understood that many people went through similar or worse situations and that I am not alone for the first time. In your comment under 1000 words you said something about art that is supposed to change things. Your art certainly change things. At least it does for me. Thank you. 
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MorgannaLaFey Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
I come from a broken family too and a mom who would practically say the same thing.  This encapsulates it perfectly.  
Thank you so much for this piece of art.  
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