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Tape it Back Together by yuumei Tape it Back Together by yuumei
My family has a complicated history of separation, immigration, divorce, and remarriage. I won't go into the details but my mom often said to me "It's my life, my choice, I do what I want. You have no right to judge me."

I'm 18, but as a 9 year old child at the time, I couldn't repeat what she said. I could only wonder "Your choice in life affects me too."

Divorce is such a fad these days. Half the people I know have divorced parents, and most of them aren't happy about it. I understand in some situations divorce is the only way, but when your choice affects more than just you, think of the consequences and choose wisely.

With that said, I also wrote a short visual novel about the subject and an interactive narrative .
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Avestra 3 days ago  Professional General Artist
If I understand the description correctly, your mother had to choose between:
a) mother stays with her husband, mother is unhappy, child is happy;
b) mother leaves her husband, mother is happy, child is unhappy.

So, are you complaining that your mother prioritized her happyness over yours? Are you saying that she should have sacrificed her life and her happyness for your sake?

Actually, this is one of the reasons why I have chosen not to have children. Parents make countless sacrifices for their children throughout all their life, but those ungrateful bastards still complain that parents haven't sacrificed enough. A reminder - when mother buys a candy for the child, this is a sacrifice as well, because she could have spent the money to buy something for herself instead.

As for divorces, unfortunately human brain haven't evolved for long lasting relationships. Statistics are cruel - more than half of all the marriages end badly. And it's not that those divorced people were the "rotten apples" for not trying hard to maintain the relationship. It's simply what human nature is.

So, if a person does not want her children to experience the pain of a divorce, her best choice is not to have children - after all, only the unborn child experiences no pain.
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ViridianVeil 17 hours ago  New member Student General Artist
There is more to learn from pain than nothingness. At least there is life. There is joy in suffering if you can find it. If you allow yourself to find it.

My parents divorced when I was five. They are now both happily married to other people. I don't agree with divorce, and it was a nightmarish experience at times. But we are all human. Mistakes are made and wounds are inflicted. There is not a single human being without scars. If pain was a reason not to live, then there would not be many people left on this Earth. 

We are stronger for the things we overcome, and we are more beautiful when we love for nothing in return.
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Avestra 10 hours ago  Professional General Artist
There is more to learn from pain than nothingness.

Sounds like you are talking about some kind of meaning of life? And it sounds like your opinion is based on your religious views. The problem here is - I don't share your religion. I think that there is no meaning of life, no God, no spirituality, nothing. We are just a bunch of carbon atoms with no purpose whatsoever. And there's no point in "learning from pain" either. Once you die, everything you learned is gone.

There is joy in suffering if you can find it.

No, there isn't any. The only good thing about suffering is that people are extremely happy once the pain ends.

I'm a nihilist when it comes to my attitude towards life. So all that's left for me is hedonism. I do whatever that increases my happiness and decreases my suffering. Simply as that. Unfortunately human brain haven't evolved for an ethernal bliss. So unhappiness is a part of life. But usually I try to minimize it as much as possible.

I don't agree with divorce, and it was a nightmarish experience at times.

As a hedonist, I'd say that people should do whatever that increases their happiness. If a divorce makes somebody happy, then she should go for it.

By the way, in general I don't really like divorces either. Usually they cause a whole bunch of negative emotions. This is why people should never get married in the first place. No marriages = no divorces. I have decided not to marry. Luckily I live in a place where it is socially acceptable for a woman not to marry and not to have children.

we are more beautiful when we love for nothing in return

I strongly disagree. There is nothing beautiful in love being wasted on ingrateful beings. Loving for nothing in return is a very stupid thing for somebody to do.

If pain was a reason not to live, then there would not be many people left on this Earth.

If the amount of joy is greater than the amount of unhappiness, then, in my opinion, life is worth living. Otherwise it isn't. If one day my life will become too unhappy, then I will commit a suicide. But for now, most of the time I enjoy living. As long as there are lots of fun, exciting and pleasant events in my life, I can keep on living.

I originally commented on this painting, because artist's message was disgusting for me. The world does not owe her happiness. Her parents have no duty to make sacrifices in order to ensure that she has a happy childhood. Nobody owes her anything. If she is unhappy about her life, then she should shut up and commit a suicide. If she is happy to be alive, then she should stop whining and stop criticizing other humans for not making sacrifices for her. You should either commit a suicide or stop whining and go on with your life. I honestly hate it when people complain that others haven't made their life beautiful enough.
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ur the missed abortion
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Avestra 7 hours ago  Professional General Artist
Are you implying that I should fear the thought of not being born at all? If so, then I don't. It's great not to be born at all. Then you don't have to deal with the burden of living and thinking. You don't have any problems.

Besides, I don't see any difference between not being conceived at all and being aborted.
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Icestorm1324 4 days ago  New member Hobbyist Traditional Artist
That is beautiful. I love the voice. This piece of art is more than amazing.
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illiarovanna Apr 8, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Oh my gosh. I don't know what to say. o.o
... Wow. just as I think life at my home is horrible- and there are other people in worse situations than me- solving their problems.
....... Oh the twisted game of life we humans live in. 
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Moonjay8 Mar 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow, this is so beautiful
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TheIce-Sorceress Mar 18, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I wish a happy marriage and family were more common nowadays than a broken one :/
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