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Tape it Back Together by yuumei Tape it Back Together by yuumei
My family has a complicated history of separation, immigration, divorce, and remarriage. I won't go into the details but my mom often said to me "It's my life, my choice, I do what I want. You have no right to judge me."

I'm 18, but as a 9 year old child at the time, I couldn't repeat what she said. I could only wonder "Your choice in life affects me too."

Divorce is such a fad these days. Half the people I know have divorced parents, and most of them aren't happy about it. I understand in some situations divorce is the only way, but when your choice affects more than just you, think of the consequences and choose wisely.

With that said, I also wrote a short visual novel about the subject and an interactive narrative .
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Graveyard-Rose Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
You can try not to make the same mistakes, and you can be sad about it, it's normal that the divorce of your parents affected you, and maybe it wasn't well treated when you were a kid.

But you have to try and understand your parents. With nine years the world seems a happy place, and your parents perfect people but if you grew up a little more in that enviroment of two people that don't love each other anymore but stay together just because of the kids, you would notice, you would see two not only not perfect people, but sad and frustrated. And that would hurt you too, and consume you, and probably give you a wrong impression of how relationships work.

Maybe your mother should not tell you about your right to judge, but that's a defense tactic... She was not happy about it either but perhaps it was the best choice, even to you; and you have to see that, and that they deserve to be happy too.
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Trafal-the-Law Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Professional General Artist
families are over-rated and so are parents.
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WrathOfAnAsura Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
If you could go back and change it you might not have the same knowledge of separation you have today and possibly make the same mistake in the future.
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gidigum Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
My parents divorced when I was 9. The divorce itself didn't affect me at all. To be honest, I didn't really see my parents that much as a child because they were working all the time, so i guess it didn't work out for them later on. I actually got a lot closer to my parents thanks to their breakup, because now non of them had to work that much, and they had more time to spend time with us (me and my two older siblings).
Today i'm only close to my mother. Yes, she made some really bad mistakes after the divorce.. But unlike my dad, she never left us. She was always there for us.
My dad got married to a jealous bitch. She was in our lives for 6 years. For some reason she had decided to hate me and my brother, but love my bigsister. She was really mean, always yelling at me and my bigbro and bullying us. She never let dad defend us or even spend time with us without her, and later he was not allowed to be with anyone than her and her family..  then she made up lies about me and my brother, especially about me, and my dad believed her! She told my dad that i was mean her, telling everyone lies about dad, failed school and stolen money from dad .. Soon my siblings left me out as well after this, and I was afraid to go home because of everyone hating me for no reason. So i ran away from home and lived for about a year here and there, mostly at my friends house.
After 6 years of marrige, dad had lost me and my siblings, and this bitch wife of his had plans to sell our home and move somewhere else with him and leave us, but he refused to leave his kids, and then she finally divorced him. Later he found out that she was the one who had stolen money from him.. He then won us back, but not me entirely.. I love my father, but it's so hard to talk to him after these tough years. So much happened, i can't fit it all in this post.
I just felt like sharing my story with you guys. I'm now 19, i've moved out from home and life is pretty good right now. I'm still pretty badly scared from my dads ex wife, but i can live with it. It's in the past.

It's important for all the divorced parents out there to always think about what's the best for their kids. The divorce may not be that bad, but the new people coming to your childs life makes it tough.
Sorry for this superlong post. I just felt like sharing my story with  you guys. Hugs and a lot of love from me to everyone. <3
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II-edison-II Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Awww so sad :(
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alielana Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
i just started crying <3 <3 Heart 3D Llama Emoji-07 (Hopeless or Scared) [V1] Llama Emoji-06 (Depress) [V1] Llama Emoji-65 (Blood Tears...) [V3] Llama Emoji 28 (Delicious) [V2] Llama Llama 
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River-fox Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
When this picture first got uploaded to DeviantART a few years ago, I couldn't relate to it. Like, I mean, looking at it made me sad inside but that's it.
Last year my parents split up, I got dragged from one parent to the other I had to move out and move in at least 3 times because no one wanted me, no one knew what to do with me. My dad abandoned me because of his new girlfriend and he was the most important person in my life. I know there are many stories like this but each is different. I'm 17 years old and already lost grip of my life.

Now this wonderful artwork makes me tear up every time I take a closer look at it, every time I read it. It's breathtaking and at the same time painfully true.
I wonder if a parent would be able to understand the pain we are feeling. Because not once I saw that a parent was sorry for what they did.
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C3rb3ruz Featured By Owner 5 days ago
I can still relate even if I have a decent family.
Perhaps, someday I would adopt every abandoned child and becoming their parents.. and teach them everything they deserve and they have to know.
Those ignorant parents would pay the price... in the right time.
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River-fox Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
That is a really nice and kind thought, honestly, there are too many suffering.
Hopefully. Karma or something.
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C3rb3ruz Featured By Owner 4 days ago
I wouldn't be working alone, of course.
A "night" wouldn't stay a "night" forever, it will become a "Day". Somehow.
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