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Don't Be Selfish by yuumei Don't Be Selfish by yuumei

I was recently informed that my dad may not have much longer to live due to heart conditions, but of all the things to do before his death, seeing me is not one of them because his wife won’t allow it and he can’t be bothered to care. It’s weird to find out that while my dad is still alive, the last time I saw him 3 years ago is the last time I will ever see him again.

It’s hard to fight back the memories of how much things have changed since my youth, so I will just embrace it instead.

It’s funny how they used to say that they did everything for my sake. I’m sure they actually believed it themselves back then, but time has a way of changing people. I can’t help but find it ironic that the things they did to help the family ultimately torn it apart. Never coming home to make money, going abroad to study; distance makes the heart grow cold, and time weathers down all promises.

I had always been very understanding of their divorce. Hey, it happens. But as they built new lives, it became evident that I was not included. It doesn’t matter now, but at the time, I was still a minor and had to depend on them. It’s just like a slap in the face when your own mother tells you that you have nothing because your father didn’t pay for it. Adding to the list of things I don’t have is the right to see my dad before his death. The leftover child of that failed marriage is no longer a concern.

I feel so bitter right now it’s fucking disgusting.
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Peaceful-Child Featured By Owner 8 hours ago  Student General Artist
Gives you all the hugs! You are a awesome and great person! They are the selfish ones.
halolha Featured By Owner 20 hours ago
This is too sad...

Jesus loves you though

I do too
JohneyLuke1 Featured By Owner 4 days ago  New Deviant
I’m impressed with the special and informative contents that you just offer in such short
mobilezone Featured By Owner 6 days ago  New Deviant
 We have book-marked the item as well as I will be anticipating checking out brand new posts.
amunoz0 Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2016  New Deviant
I had seen this before on pinterest and I really liked it and wanted to see more of the artists work. I didn't realize that it was you and I just wanted to say that I really like your work and that I related to this, not on a full scale but partially, I can't wait to see what you make next. :)
LoveHeartPeace Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2016  New Deviant Student Artist
it's sad Cry run 
ALDAL Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2016  Student Traditional Artist

your parents are selfish bastards 
MegaFreedom1274 Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree >:1
MegaFreedom1274 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm really sorry.... i thought i had rough..<:/

there's a bright side to everything though!! Like, at least your not dead? That's kind of a bright side! least your not a victim of child abuse! That's another bright side...kind of?
Sonic Shrug Emote 

man i realy suck at this...Facepalm 
InvaderNexis Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2016  Student General Artist
well...its like i always say.

Beauty and success are sometimes born from the worst kinds of misery. 
afidaht Featured By Owner Edited Jan 29, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
keep strong Yuumei, keep strong...
all children have their problem, we can through it
SapphirePoppy Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2016
It's not really my place to say this but I think it needs to be said: if you want to see your dad then go see him! Even if people tell you not to. You're an adult, right? This is your decision to make, not anyone else's. This is your last chance to say something to him. Or his last chance to say something to you. He may just be glad to see you, even if he doesn't say it. Three years ago doesn't have to be the last time you saw him. It's your choice.
(Sorry, not my place, I just think it's important)
SaaJarts Featured By Owner 4 hours ago  New Deviant Student General Artist
LilBunnyFufu Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2016
I know this feeling, and trust me. 

There will be people out there that will care for you. 
TakeshiTenma Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I never was any good with words and i doubt out of all of these comments you will see mine but i'm just going to try
You are are loved here and in the community of art whether it's by fellow artists or just fans and everything in between i might be wording this wrong and if i'am i'm sorry...
jackson22222 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2016
Damn. I hope every thing gets better mate.
RebelCross Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2016  Student
Your story has only just begun, the sting of hits like a bullet when waking up from the dark.
SonataBlaze Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
...Tomoya and Tomoyo (Affection) [V3] be brave!
Shima-taicho31 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Give me a hug! I hope you're okay. You're strong. You can go through this just fine. Be strong. Live happily. Now that you've woken up, go live. Be happy, you're not selfish if you want happiness too. :)
Shima-taicho31 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Oh my god you made my heart feel pain this is real sad :( I feel like crying
Salma-Safelight Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016  New Deviant Hobbyist Digital Artist
This is very sad and.... painful, its not wrong to be a little selfish, especially when your parents aren't giving you any attention...
FreezingKaiju Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016  Hobbyist
This situation is the only horrible thing in this world we can never hope to get rid of. 
We could eliminate ISIS.
We could cure cancer.
We could stop murder.
We can never fully prevent a broken home.
You have the power to make yourself happy.
If you work hard, keep focused, and maybe get a little lucky, you can make sure that things like this don't ruin your life.
And if !'m being colossally insensitive, I'm sorry. I'm just an autistic teenager with parents who have a one-in-a-zillion relationship. 
gogosheri Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016  New Deviant Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm sorry, I cried. I cried so hard, I wish this type of stuff didn't happen to people like you, people with good hearts.
flutterbye223 Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016
that sounds like my dad too though he does let my twin into his new life but not me
CrystalsurfArt Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Sends virtual hug
Nawel249 Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016
That's depressing, man.
J-B-Hickock Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016  Professional Writer
I'm sorry.

It's such a trite phrase, I'm sorry I can't think of anything better or more illuminating to say, but I am: I am sorry that things are hard for you, that life is cruel, that people are stupid. I am sorry that this sort of thing happens to people who don't deserve it.
sawberrykiss Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Good luck. I hope that you´ll get happy one day.
Creepehpashta Featured By Owner Edited Jan 25, 2016  New Deviant Hobbyist General Artist
k, Yatsukisamada. Selfish is not a good thing... if you have the delusion that selfish is ok, people are going to constantly be annoyed with you, hate you and much more. If people love you for being selfish, then they are really odd. yuumei, it's understandable to be bitter, I'm still bitter with my mom for doing shit to me, but don't focus too much on it or it will destroy you.
Creepehpashta Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2016  New Deviant Hobbyist General Artist
This is sad. I am so sorry. :'<
Yatsukisamada Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
"Don't be selfish" the selfish parents say.

Being bitter is disgusting, it leaves you out in the cold thinking about all the negative things. 

Besides, being selfish isn't a bad thing. I don't even understand why many people use it as a negative word. 
I admit that I am selfish, but who isn't anyway? It's not like I don't care for others. I actually get compliments for being nice, because no-one takes my kindness for granted. 

Anyway, side-tracked a little there. 

You have my full support. Go on and be selfish gurl~
lollipopflower Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
I hate it when people's parents do shit like this! It makes me just want to either kill them or kidnap their children to live with me! I'm not old enough to adopt or live by my self yet though.

In my school we're doing stuff about finding jobs, I now want a job where I can help children.
Izzy-Ortiz Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Whoa, that mother is like my mom...this kimda resembles my life, but i live with my dad and visit my mom
kiarar Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2015
If this has been posted on 9gag without your permission, please contact them to take it down. I recognized it as your work, but I don't see any credit being given to you aside from a stray comment here and there...
Essilem Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
There's a difference between being selfish and acting in self-interest. Emotional support, especially from one's parents, is as necessary as food or water. To want to have it is not being selfish.

But, my god, this is such a powerful work. Hope time has mended your wounds at least in some part. The scars may remain but hopefully the pain has softened, even if it may take years to overcome.

Cheers from another human being with somewhat relatable feelings.
BULLSEO Featured By Owner Dec 23, 2015
I am happy when reading your blog with updated information! thanks alot and hope that you will post more site that are related to this site  website
FyRose Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This comic, it evoked heartbreak, sadness, and anger.
How could parents be so selfish?!!
FyRose Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
She...really said that?!
If anyone is selfish, it seems like the mother is...
SharkyOnTheMoon Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2015  New Deviant Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Damn... The people advertising here though...
Listen, I know that it's hard. I know that their selfish choices had affected you greatly. They can't be erased forever. But, keep living on, because that's in the past, and tomorrow is a new day. Don't let this weigh you down. 
Dragon-Creator Featured By Owner Dec 12, 2015  Student General Artist
My God, I've never cried so much over your work before. I'm going through painfully similar experiences right now. I feel guilty though when your situation seems so much worse. I'm so sorry Yuumei, I had no idea this happened to you. If I could I would hug you so tight and cry in your shoulder then apologize for getting your shirt wet..
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