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Don't Be Selfish by yuumei Don't Be Selfish by yuumei
I was recently informed that my dad may not have much longer to live due to heart conditions, but of all the things to do before his death, seeing me is not one of them because his wife wonít allow it and he canít be bothered to care. Itís weird to find out that while my dad is still alive, the last time I saw him 3 years ago is the last time I will ever see him again.

Itís hard to fight back the memories of how much things have changed since my youth, so I will just embrace it instead.

Itís funny how they used to say that they did everything for my sake. Iím sure they actually believed it themselves back then, but time has a way of changing people. I canít help but find it ironic that the things they did to help the family ultimately torn it apart. Never coming home to make money, going abroad to study; distance makes the heart grow cold, and time weathers down all promises.

I had always been very understanding of their divorce. Hey, it happens. But as they built new lives, it became evident that I was not included. It doesnít matter now, but at the time, I was still a minor and had to depend on them. Itís just like a slap in the face when your own mother tells you that you have nothing because your father didnít pay for it. Adding to the list of things I donít have is the right to see my dad before his death. The leftover child of that failed marriage is no longer a concern.

I feel so bitter right now itís fucking disgusting.
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Vasynda Featured By Owner 5 hours ago  Student Digital Artist
I can't really relate to this. My parents died when I was seven. Seen all manners of Hell, still seeing it. But keep in mind, even if your father's wife wouldn't allow it, sometimes you just got to push right on through and grab that last final moment. Even if you get shit for it afterwords, you'll be glad you did it.
DeathPantherz Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Omg... I actually shed a tear... Holy shit... *hug*
nakamura-ch4n Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2014  New member Hobbyist General Artist
*hugs* Don't you ever feel that way! 

yuumei I know this was posted long ago but I must say that you must not think of yourself as bitter or disgusting... I am sorry for your father's passing but even then it was cold of him to not fight his new wife for the right to see you, as for your mother well she wasn't nice herself (reminds me of my mother). But do not fret yuumei, you are awesome!!! 

Your art is AMAZING and not to mention you made those cat ear headphones a reality!! You have my support and not to mention my contribution to your cat ear headphones campaign! :3 

tempestofazure Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
When I first saw the title of this comic and the thumbnail I was expecting something ironic or funny, and even as I read the first few panels I thought it might not become as sad as it ended up being. It took me by surprise that it ended up this upsetting, and even more so that it wasn't based in fiction. There are no words that I can think to say to offer comfort, and I'm sorry I can't relate to your situation and I won't pretend to understand it. All I can think to say is you seem like a kind and thoughtful person, and I hope things have gotten better for you and continue to do so.
animegirlMLP Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2014
I'm ready to wake up.
horseluv1223 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I think we all need to wake up
Kai-Er Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2014  New member
I saw this over on Meta Picture and found my way here, because I wanted to address you in hopes of bringing some relief to your pain.

I honestly do hope you overcome this and rush forward into life with happiness.  It will take some time.  Reinvent yourself into who you are aside from the negativity that has been dumped on you in life.

I could tell from the first panel in that drawing that you were either Chinese or Chinese ethnic.  While divorce and abandonment are universal, there were some things about your drawing that I've seen played out here in China, over and over again.  (I'm not Chinese/Chinese ethnic.)

Break that cycle and share joy in your own child's life, if you go in that direction.

I'm dealing with a complete family abandonment as well, and I only get stronger every day.  Be your own family, treat others how you were not, thrive off of those good vibes you give others, because they will be given back to you in return.  I'm 11,000 miles from my "family", but now I've got a family of 1.3 billion, and I treat them all how I wish to be treated.  And just like any family, there are ups and downs, but the goodness I get in return for the goodness I show others... that washes over the feelings I get from those who have abandoned me.

Being informed of my mother's death by email was the hardest, but I've overcome that as well.  Keep pushing forward and don't let their negativity, or the negativity from those they are with, keep you down.

Smile once in a while.  You may have to search for the things to smile about, but they are there.  Heck, some stranger just surfed around the web, trying to find you and reassure you that life won't always suck... There's one thing to smile about.

If that doesn't do it... imagine farting in a bathtub full of jello.  Just smile.
KishinSlayer Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
A salute to you, my fellow deviantARTist! I have not gone through the same experiences as you, so I cannot hope to even begin to empathize with you. You deserve so much for your strength. You have enlightened me, and I am truly thankful!
avadaxxxkedavra Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2014
I can't believe how selfish and horrible some parents can be. You are so strong to have gone through that. I could not imagine how it must feel to have your parents turn their backs on you. 
JavaBeanJohnny Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It takes a lot of strength to go through that, im so glad you decided to focus on your art rather than let it waste away in a depression. im actually slightly jealous, cus its taken me so long to find my passion, and even so I am trying to make a drive or figure out what I wanna do.

God bless you.
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