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Don't Be Selfish by yuumei Don't Be Selfish by yuumei
I was recently informed that my dad may not have much longer to live due to heart conditions, but of all the things to do before his death, seeing me is not one of them because his wife wonít allow it and he canít be bothered to care. Itís weird to find out that while my dad is still alive, the last time I saw him 3 years ago is the last time I will ever see him again.

Itís hard to fight back the memories of how much things have changed since my youth, so I will just embrace it instead.

Itís funny how they used to say that they did everything for my sake. Iím sure they actually believed it themselves back then, but time has a way of changing people. I canít help but find it ironic that the things they did to help the family ultimately torn it apart. Never coming home to make money, going abroad to study; distance makes the heart grow cold, and time weathers down all promises.

I had always been very understanding of their divorce. Hey, it happens. But as they built new lives, it became evident that I was not included. It doesnít matter now, but at the time, I was still a minor and had to depend on them. Itís just like a slap in the face when your own mother tells you that you have nothing because your father didnít pay for it. Adding to the list of things I donít have is the right to see my dad before his death. The leftover child of that failed marriage is no longer a concern.

I feel so bitter right now itís fucking disgusting.
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Kai-Er Featured By Owner 20 hours ago  New member
I saw this over on Meta Picture and found my way here, because I wanted to address you in hopes of bringing some relief to your pain.

I honestly do hope you overcome this and rush forward into life with happiness.  It will take some time.  Reinvent yourself into who you are aside from the negativity that has been dumped on you in life.

I could tell from the first panel in that drawing that you were either Chinese or Chinese ethnic.  While divorce and abandonment are universal, there were some things about your drawing that I've seen played out here in China, over and over again.  (I'm not Chinese/Chinese ethnic.)

Break that cycle and share joy in your own child's life, if you go in that direction.

I'm dealing with a complete family abandonment as well, and I only get stronger every day.  Be your own family, treat others how you were not, thrive off of those good vibes you give others, because they will be given back to you in return.  I'm 11,000 miles from my "family", but now I've got a family of 1.3 billion, and I treat them all how I wish to be treated.  And just like any family, there are ups and downs, but the goodness I get in return for the goodness I show others... that washes over the feelings I get from those who have abandoned me.

Being informed of my mother's death by email was the hardest, but I've overcome that as well.  Keep pushing forward and don't let their negativity, or the negativity from those they are with, keep you down.

Smile once in a while.  You may have to search for the things to smile about, but they are there.  Heck, some stranger just surfed around the web, trying to find you and reassure you that life won't always suck... There's one thing to smile about.

If that doesn't do it... imagine farting in a bathtub full of jello.  Just smile.
KishinSlayer Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
A salute to you, my fellow deviantARTist! I have not gone through the same experiences as you, so I cannot hope to even begin to empathize with you. You deserve so much for your strength. You have enlightened me, and I am truly thankful!
avadaxxxkedavra Featured By Owner 4 days ago
I can't believe how selfish and horrible some parents can be. You are so strong to have gone through that. I could not imagine how it must feel to have your parents turn their backs on you. 
JavaBeanJohnny Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It takes a lot of strength to go through that, im so glad you decided to focus on your art rather than let it waste away in a depression. im actually slightly jealous, cus its taken me so long to find my passion, and even so I am trying to make a drive or figure out what I wanna do.

God bless you.
Seifirosu Featured By Owner 5 days ago
This was posted on, that's how I got here. It sounds like a pretty toxic environment to grow up in, I hope you are out of that situation now, and that you smack the crap out of your father's wife.
JavaBeanJohnny Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thats where I saw it also!! SOMUCHFEELS WAAAAH XCCCC
Taiya001 Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
:tighthug: I am so so so sorry.
Hellspawn626 Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014
I know that it has been a while since you posted this, but I felt the need to respond to it regardless. While my experiences with my parents are nowhere near as bad as yours, they haven't been stellar. I've found myself getting the shaft in regards to my father's relationships since my parents got divorced, so I can understand what you're going through, even if only by a small part. You have an enormous community online that supports and respects you, and while we are in no way capable of replacing what you've lost, we want to help in any way we can.
I've purchased from your table at Fanime Con for two years now, so after reading this I know that you've found your place despite these problems, and I think it is nothing short of incredible. We wish you the best.
7thstar Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014
I can't believe that your parents are like that. I can only hope that Axent Wear will be a huge success.
DarkDragonTanis Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2014
o.o/  i just found this comic strip on facebook withount crediting its yours…
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